In your life, you will feel certain pressures to get married. Whether it is your mom constantly on your case about settling down and giving her some grandchildren or the unspoken pressure of all your friends getting married around you. While there are so many reasons you might feel pressured into getting married, what is important to realize that there are some reasons not to get married. Because what may seem like good reasons at the time may turn out to be the wrong reasons to get married. Rather than ending up with a life where the irate cartoon wife chases you around the house with a rolling pin, take a minute to consider what you actually want.
Reason 1 Not to Get Married: She’s Pregnant
If your girlfriend is pregnant, you might feel pressure to get married. Granted the pressure might even be a 12 gauge double barreled shotgun held by the father of the young woman, consider your options. Marriage is not always the best solution for a pregnancy. If you are not in love; seriously in love, your child may grow up misunderstanding the family dynamic. Don’t let an “accident” turn into a mistake. You can still be a great influence in your unborn child’s life without rushing into a marriage. Do you love your gf and does she love you? Well then by all means get married just don’t let an unexpected pregnancy be the only determining factor.
Reason 2 Not to Get Married: Family Pressure
For as long as you can remember your family has pressured you into doing things. Piano lessons, football, school plays, wrestling, the list goes on. Should they really also be able to pressure you into getting married? This is your life and you need to determine when you are ready to get married. If you rush into getting married, it might end in divorce. Unless your culture calls for an arranged marriage (even then we caution) your decision on which woman you are going to marry is entirely your decision.
Reason 3 Not to Get Married: Financial Considerations
Some may feel inclined to get married because money is involved. If you are more attracted to her because of her money, or it’s the other way around, are you really in love (or are you just like most of us and just like shiny things?)? Consider this: if you both were broke and living in adjacent cardboard duplexes, would you still be together? Do you both spend time alone together just watching movies, playing board games, or picnicking in the back yard? If you cannot name times in which you are not doing something which relates to money or moving up in social status, it is time to consider what the point of getting married is. A hollow relationship will only get worse when married.
Reason 4 Not to Get Married: Vegas Weddings
What happens in Vegas does not necessarily stay in Vegas. If you get married there because you are caught up in the moment, you might regret it later. Just like you should not get tattoos without thinking about it, getting married is something which takes more consideration. If you want to gamble, go to the casino. Do not gamble on your future by jumping the broom before you are both ready to be in a serious relationship.
Reason 5 Not to Get Married: Age Considerations
The thought of being the old guy in the club does not appeal to many guys, so instead of going down the road of jean jackets and the running man, many guys opt to get married. This often times happens with women as well. In fact scientific studies show that once a woman reaches 28 she begins to hear this insistent ticking. It’s her biological clock. Either way regardless of the reason getting older isn’t a reason to get married.
Reason 6 Not to Get Married: Citizenship Needs
Being an American citizen is great. The freedoms and rights we enjoy certainly are appealing. However, noting is worth making a lifelong commitment in order to gain citizenship. Furthermore marriage is not a guarantee of a speedy citizenship or even of gaining citizenship. You could end up married to someone you do not love and still not getting the citizenship you or your new bride are looking for.
Love should be the only reason to get married. It may seem a little cheesy, but it has been proven time and again. Only those who can envision wanting to kiss the wrinkled old lips of their spouse are the ones which will have a happy marriage. Keep this in mind whenever you are considering getting married for any reason other than love.
Can you think of any other reasons NOT to get married?
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