We’ve all seen it; Hollywood’s portrayal of your bride’s remorseful ex-lover standing at the last second to not only profess his love for your beautiful bride, but also just in time to ruin your wedding, and possibly run off with the love of your life. And sure, on the big screen it’s easy to cheer for the underdog, but how would you feel if this happened to you? What if it wasn’t her Ex standing in protest, but instead it was her father, mother, or her little crack head brother? Ok that wasn’t nice, he’s not really a crack head but he is definitely vying for the title.
The point is that nobody expects something like that to happen in real life, but every wedding has its own surprises. So just in case you’re ever faced with the situation, we’re going to tell you at least know how to handle it. So first, how about we look at: How to deal with:
The Boyfriend
Well first we would like to start by saying that Hollywood’s portrayal of the “lovestruck ex-boyfriend” is exactly that, and if you were to attend a hundred weddings you would probably never witness a scene like we showed above. While nothings proven impossible until it never happens, certain realities are best left for
Why:
Well, it just doesn’t happen. Think about it. Which man in his right mind would crash your wedding (he’s not invited right), interrupt the ceremony and then profess his love for your bride in a room full of your closest friends and former frat buddies. If he does he either has the biggest cast-iron balls in the world or a death wish
So what do you do?
Nothing. Yea that’s what we said! I know right now even thinking about the possibility of your fiancee’s ex-boyfriend _______ (you know his name) doing something like that makes your eyes glaze over in anger. But leave the “throwing out” to your ushers, groomsmen and possibly your soon to be father-in-law who packed his 44 magnum with you in mind. Remember not only would it crush your bride to watch you dismantle a man on “her” wedding day, but you also have pictures to take, and blood will just throw off the entire color scheme.
Family:
Now this scenario is more likely to happen. Sadly enough it’s usually the people that hate you more than they love your bride that speak up.
Why:
Well they either hate you, hate themselves or are jealous of your happiness.
So what do you do?
Again NOTHING (are we seeing a trend here?). Hopefully by now you would have gotten a chance to spend time with her family and a situation like this will not arise. But if you really want to make sure it doesn’t happen, you’ll need to become friends with either her father or mother. By having one of them on your side you can win over the entire family by proxy. And possibly curb any plans of wedding mutiny without ever lifting a finger.
Anyway, as we stated before, don’t worry about a young Dustin Hoffman running in beating up your father-in-law and defeating you and your entire wedding party with the plastic cross he ripped off the chapel doors and then running off with your fiancee. Because while it might make for a good movie, certain realities are best left to the big screen.
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